Как женщине делать приятно: 9 шагов на пути к успеху

Секс в одно касание. Как сделать девушке приятно с помощью 10 пальцев и 1 языка

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Заняться бесконтактным сексом вскоре после того, как вы уже позанимались контактным, — это неправильное решение. Тут самое ценное — твое желание, сильное и явное. Если ты проведешь весь сеанс в состоянии стойкой эрекции, тем лучше. Женщина имеет гораздо большую психологическую, чем физиологическую зависимость от секса: твое возбуждение возбуждает и ее. Меньше всего ее порадуют механические ласки мужчины, который уже достиг оргазма несколько раз и теперь мужественно сражается не с зовом плоти, а с желанием вздремнуть пару часиков.

Основное правило

Просто представь, что у тебя нет пениса. Игнорируй его. Относись к нему как к некой абстракции из параллельной реальности. Все остальные твои части тела остаются при тебе: губы, язык, целых десять пальцев, — попробуй, чтобы они стали ему полноценной заменой. Между прочим, некоторые не избалованные обилием женской ласки мужчины из патриархальных антисексуальных обществ ухитряются испытывать оргазм от одного поцелуя или даже просто от случайного прикосновения к женщине. Поверь, у тебя потенциал не хуже. И помни: чем голоднее ты будешь, тем вкуснее тебе покажется еда. Это правило отлично работает и в сексе.

Сколько это должно продолжаться

Составители «Камасутры» вообще предлагали супругам пару раз в месяц заниматься бесконтактным сексом, совершенно исключив из него само соитие. Муж приходил в опочивальню к жене, несколько часов они таким образом изводили друг друга, после чего расходились каждый в свою спальню — писать там стихи о розах и мечтать о свидании (уже полноценном), предстоящем завтра. Подобного стоицизма от тебя не ждут. Поэтому есть предложение: секса не будет, пока она сама у тебя его не попросит. Вслух. Словами. Без каких-либо намеков с твоей стороны. А уж как от нее этого добиться, читаем дальше.

Звуковое оформление

Звуки для женщины важны почти так же, как прикосновения, а иногда играют вообще решающую роль. Поэтому тишины в спальне в этот момент быть не должно. Но лучше не надеяться, что ты сам сможешь безостановочно болтать что-нибудь эротическое, виртуозно обходя любые слова и выражения, которые могут царапнуть, показаться глупыми, обидными или вульгарными. (Если бы ты был на такое способен, то давно бы уже стал лауреатом Нобелевской премии по литературе, это точно.) Тем не менее какие-нибудь звуки тут кому-нибудь издавать надо. Раньше мужчины выкручивались из этого положения, позволяя отдуваться за них соловьям и всяким прочим цикадам за окнами; сейчас у нас, к счастью, если аудиосистемы.

Важные моменты:

Музыка должна быть негромкой. Как раз такой, чтобы можно было расслышать твое полузадушенное «Какая ты красивая!» в тот момент, когда ты все же решишь издать какой-нибудь звук сам.

Музыка не должна быть навязчивой, слишком ритмичной, часто меняющей рисунок мелодии. Она не должна отвлекать. Французский шансон или старые латино­американские композиции, доносящиеся как бы издалека, — почти идеальный выбор. Грамотные владельцы уютных кафе не зря чаще всего используют именно эти записи: они не вызывают раздражения почти ни у кого, в отличие, например, от похожих по ритмике и стилю этнических композиций.

Руки

Подушечки пальцев , запястья и внутренняя поверхность сгиба локтя — это места богатейшего скопления нервных рецепторов. По­пробуй поприкусывать подушечки ее пальцев, провести языком от запястья до сгиба локтя. Поверни ее кисти ладонями вверх и проведи губами до запястий (рот желательно держать закрытым). Прижми губы к тому месту, где у девушки должен биться пульс. Теперь своими пальцами сделай кошачье движение, как бы царапая ее ладонь. Такие игры с ее нервными рецепторами приведут к тому, что девушка станет чувствительно реагировать практически на любое прикосновение в любом участке ее тела.

Массаж ног

Как удивить девушку в постели

В желании понравиться своему партнеру мы часто задаемся вопросом о том, как показаться ему или ей красивее, умнее, интереснее, — одним словом, лучше всех кто был «‎до». Интимный вопрос — один из главных между партнерами. В нашей прошлой статье мы рассказали о самых популярных способах для девушек как можно внести в секс с любимым мужчиной новизны. Сегодня же мы переключим фокус внимания на женщин, так как искренне считаем, что в отношениях должно быть хорошо обоим партнерам. Женщины сами по себе более эмоциональны и чаще показывают это в социальном взаимодействии. Не зря говорят, что у женщин оргазм начинается с мыслей. Поэтому первое, о чем нужно думать в проблеме того «‎как удивить женщину в постели» — это ваша эмоциональная связь. Не многие из девушек могут действительно отключить все лишние мысли во время секса и думать только об ощущениях. Голова может быть переполнена вопросами о том, почему вы стали холоднее к ней, нравитесь ли вы ей, мыслями о последних ссорах и многом другом. Покажите вашей спутнице, что все ваше внимание окутано именно ей одной.

Взгляд и прикосновения — мощное оружие в этом вопросе. В «‎тот самый» момент подойдите к ней, нежно загляните в глаза и запустите руку в ее волосы. Поверьте, перед этим мало кто устоит.
После этого, переходите к прелюдии. Чередуйте нежные прикосновения со страстными, легкие поцелуи с прикусыванием губ. Если есть возможность создать вокруг нужную обстановку — обязательно сделайте это. Приглушенный свет, музыка, и бокал хорошего вина — стали уже незыблемыми основами расслабляющей атмосферы. Далее, можете переходить к выбору вашего сценария. 

 

Эротический массаж
Купите специальную массажную свечу, капли которой не обжигают, а превращаются в масло. Пока свеча плавится, медленно капайте ею на живот, грудь и ноги девушки. Далее, круговыми движениями втирайте теплое масло в тело. Эрогенные зоны у женщин — грудь, шея, уши, поясница и все, что находится ниже. Первую половину массажа дотрагивайтесь рядом с эрогенными зонами, чтобы взбудоражить нервные окончания и девушка уже сама хотела, чтобы вы скорее дотронулись до тех самых мест.

Использование зеркал
Видеть отражение процесса в зеркале — возбуждает многих девушек. Помимо этого, многим так гораздо проще раскрепоститься и расслабиться перед мужчиной. 

Ролевые игры 
Ролевые игры — это отличный способ внести свежих нот в ваш секс. Узнайте, в роли кого хочет побыть ваша любимая и устройте это в постели! Вам это тоже будет на пользу. Хотели секс со стюардессой или медсестрой? Пожалуйста! Возможно, так ваша девушка раскроется с совершенно новой для вас стороны.

Секс в непривычном месте привычной для вас обстановки
Где обычно происходит ваш секс? Наверное, в спальне. Включите фантазию и смелость! Пока девушка готовит вам ужин, подойдите и обхватите ее за талию, гладьте ее волосы, начните целовать в шею, разверните ее лицом к вам и дерзко посадите на стол. Дальше вы знаете, что делать.

 

Быстрый и немного жесткий секс
Как правило, самый яркий и запоминающийся секс — быстрый и жесткий. Просто вспомните фильмы с элементами эротики, как ведет себя мужчина в интимных сценах. Чтобы ни говорили на «‎50 оттенков серого» или «‎365 дней», а девушкам эти фильмы нравятся. Это тайные фантазии на которые мало кто решается и стесняется озвучить. Так что уберите скепсис и покажите девушке, что у вас может быть даже ярче, чем в подобных фильмах.

Новые позы 
Да, это именно то, что сразу ассоциируется с новизной в сексе. Как бы банально это не звучало, но расширение вашего запаса поз в сексе скажется благоприятно на интимной жизни. Найти вдохновение можно на страницах камасутры и порно. Можно также найти множество книг и календарей, в которых вам предложат новые позы практически на каждый день. Изучая тела друг друга — вы становитесь ближе и раскрепощеннее. К слову, новые варианты поз можно найти в играх. В секс-шопах есть специальные карточные игры, которые подсказывают вам, как удивить друг друга.

Оральные ласки 
Куннилингус — отличная часть прелюдии. По статистике, 7 из 10 женщин любят куннилингус. Однако перед этим рекомендуем вам поинтересоваться техниками, которые помогут доставить девушке максимальное удовольствие. Мягко раздвиньте большие половые губы, положите пальцы на бугорок сверху и нежно ласкайте вершину клитора. Можете приобрести сладкий лубрикант, чтобы делать это вам было еще приятнее.

Лед
Удовольствие от использования льда происходит за счет контрастности ощущений. По разгоряченному телу девушки аккуратно проведите кубиком льда. Начните с линий белья, вокруг груди, а затем проведите по шее, чтобы он тонко стекал вниз по животу к самым эрогенным зонам. Во время оральной ласки возьмите кубик льда в рот на несколько секунд, после чего попросите девушку немного его подержать. При этом сами спускайтесь по телу вниз с поцелуями.

 

Новое нижнее белье
Удивите девушку, подарив ей новый комплект нижнего белья. Советуем дополнить покупку портупеями и чулками. Портупеи — это кожаные или тканевые пояса вокруг тела, похожие на небольшие ремни. Смотрится очень сексуально. Если решитесь, то можете подарить съедобное нижнее белье. Его будет приятно стягивать с любимой женщины и добавит огня вашей прелюдии. 

Интимная стрижка 
Да, сделайте себе интимную стрижку. Во-первых, со стрижкой эстетичнее. Во-вторых, девушке будет приятно думать, что вы позаботились о том, чтобы понравиться ей. 

Женщины часто стесняются говорить о том, чего они действительно хотят в сексе. Женщину нужно чувствовать, чувствовать ее эмоции. Главные восторженные зрители эротических фильмов — девушки. И пока одни мужчины смеются друг с другом за бутылкой пива над такими сюжетами, другие не вылезают из постели с любимой женщиной. Не бойтесь разговаривать, говорить о своих желаниях и фантазиях, ведь именно так вы всегда сможете поддерживать свежесть вашей интимной жизни и никогда не заскучаете вместе. 

90000 5 Keys To Better Sex (And To Make Her Come) 90001 90002 90003 90004 90005 90005 How to satisfy a woman in bed? 90007 90008 90009 90002 90003 90004 How to please a woman in bed? 90007 90008 90009 90002 90004 90003 How to give her an orgasm? 90008 90007 90009 90002 That’s something many guys wonder about. 90009 90002 But do not worry: after reading this article, the female orgasm will keep no more secrets from you (or let’s say it’ll have fewer secrets, since some women can be quite complex).90009 90002 So … 90009 90002 90004 If you want to sweep your girlfriend or your fuckbuddy off her feet and onto her back 90007 … 90009 90002 Or if you do not have a regular sexual partner but you sleep with girls here and there and 90004 you want to make them scream with pleasure 90007 … 90009 90002 Pay attention to what I’m going to share with you below. 90009 90002 You’re going to discover 5 crucial keys to make a girl come. 90009 90002 You’ll just have to incorporate the tips and advice that we’re going to see below, put them into practice, then see the results and adjust accordingly.90009 90002 90002 90004 90045 If you have not done so yet 90046: 90007 take 90004 the SOLIDITY test 90007 to determine whether your game is solid … or weak. The test contains 13 questions you can answer very quickly; just check the boxes that best apply to you. Estimated duration: 2 minutes. 90009 90009 90002 Let’s go: 90009 90054 • To easily satisfy a woman in bed, put her at ease: 90055 90002 90004 If you want your partner to reach orgasm, it is essential that she feels relaxed 90007.90009 90002 It’s essential that there is no stress. 90009 90002 90004 By putting her at ease, you increase the chances that she’ll achieve orgasm 90007. 90009 90002 90003 But what do I mean exactly by putting her at ease? 90008 90009 90070 To put her at ease, first make sure that she feels desired: 90071 90002 Some girls are self-conscious about some parts of their body (sure, those body-image issues are sometimes unfounded, but that’s how girls think …) 90009 90002 To put her at ease, 90004 compliment her 90007.90009 90002 90004 Tell her how much you find her beautiful or pay her some specific compliments about her body parts 90007. 90009 90070 Create the right environment: arrange the place 90071 90084 90085 90004 Dim lights: 90007 soft light (not totally dark, though, because the sight of your body during sex can arouse her even more). 90088 90085 90004 Cleanliness: 90007 it might seem obvious, but men tend to neglect hygiene and cleanliness in the place they live. Girls care more about hygiene and cleanliness.They are more sensitive to it. This is why by making sure that the place where you plan to have sex is clean, you allow her to feel more relaxed. 90088 90085 90004 Quietness: 90007 no external disturbances such as the phone ringing, notifications, and so on. Shut down your phone and other devices that could disturb sexual intercourse. 90088 90097 90002 Sure, there’ll still be times when you’ll have no control over some of those parameters; for instance, if you make love at a party (90003 i.e. 90008 not at your place) or in a public place. 90009 90002 The points listed above are not absolutely necessary to please a woman sexually, but they can help. 90009 90002 Now, let’s talk about the next key to satisfying a woman in bed … 90009 90054 • To please a woman in bed, think about her pleasure: 90055 90002 Many men forget about this: they think primarily about their pleasure, they think primarily about themselves. 90009 90002 90004 Many guys think only about themselves and completely forget the pleasure of their partner 90007.90009 90002 90115 90115 Or they think that they are giving pleasure to their partner when they’re not even close. 90009 90002 What you need to understand is that 90004 the body of a woman and the body of a man are built differently 90007. 90009 90002 They do not work the same way. 90009 90002 90004 Women do not feel pleasure the same way that men do 90007. 90009 90002 90004 They are not aroused the same way as men are 90007. 90009 90002 Women have many more erogenous zones than men. 90009 90002 Their bodies are much more sensitive to touching.90009 90002 They can reach one or several repeated orgasms. 90009 90002 And they can achieve orgasm thanks to various forms of stimulation, while men have fewer erogenous zones and can basically have only one orgasm per sex session. 90009 90002 What’s more, men are generally all the same when it comes to having an orgasm. 90009 90002 Women can be very different: 90004 some women achieve orgasm simply through touching a specific area of ​​their body, other women reach orgasm by touching another area of ​​their body 90007 … 90009 90002 90147 90147 Each woman is different (that being said, women possess a common base on which you can work and use in order know where you’re heading).90009 90002 There’s a thing you need to understand: 90009 90002 90004 If the mere view of a female body is enough to turn on a man, the opposite is not true 90007. 90009 90002 In most cases, viewing a male body is not enough to make a woman horny. 90009 90002 90004 What arouses women is touching, caressing, hugging 90007 … 90009 90002 Hence the importance of thinking how to please her. 90009 90002 It starts by being aware of the differences between men and women when it comes to orgasm, by being aware that it’s necessary to explore the erogenous zones of your partner in order to find out what makes her wet.90009 90002 And in order to figure out where you’re heading, you must be attentive to her reactions. 90009 90002 90004 You must sense which touches arouses her 90007 … 90004 which touches bring her discomfort 90007 … 90009 90002 By being attentive to her breathing, to her moaning, to her movements … 90009 90002 In order to understand how her body works and what makes her wet. 90009 90002 Let’s go into further details by moving to the next key: 90009 90054 • To make her come, focus on foreplay: 90055 90002 90004 Foreplay is a crucial step to make her wet 90007.90009 90002 Too often, tend to rush it. 90009 90002 90003 After all, in order to fuck we just need to have an erection, do not we? 90008 90009 90002 Sure, but 90004 for women it’s different 90007. 90009 90002 90004 90198 90198 90007 90009 90002 90004 Women require much more time to get horny 90007. 90009 90002 90004 By making sure to make her moist and wanting you before penetrating her, you dramatically increase her chances of reaching orgasm during sex 90007. 90009 90002 You can even give her an orgasm during foreplay, before penetrating her.90009 90002 Understand this: 90009 90002 Foreplay is never too long. 90009 90002 As long as your partner does not ask you to penetrate her, you can continue foreplay. 90009 90002 Good foreplay is foreplay that is carried out gradually. 90009 90002 90004 Start by taking her clothes off one by one while kissing and caressing her 90007. 90009 90002 You can compliments her body parts at the same time. 90009 90070 At the beginning, touch and kiss her body while avoiding her tits and genitals.90071 90002 What makes a girl horny is raising the temperature gradually. 90009 90002 Step by step. 90009 90002 Figure out what her most erogenous parts are and concentrate on them. It can be various places such as: 90009 90084 90085 the earlobes 90088 90085 the knee pit 90088 90085 the inner thigh 90088 90085 the feet 90088 90085 the shoulders 90088 90085 the neck 90088 90097 90002 You can touch areas such as her booty, but don ‘ t touch her genitals yet. 90009 90002 And do not forget to 90004 kiss her repeatedly 90007.90009 90002 We often forget how much a woman can be aroused by a deep and sensual kiss. 90009 90070 After a few minutes, you can move to the next step and start slightly kissing her tits. 90071 90002 90004 90260 90260 90007 90009 90002 90004 Do not go after her nipples right away 90007. 90009 90002 Take it a step at a time, as always. 90009 90002 90004 Start by kissing the lower part of the side of her breast 90007. 90009 90002 90004 Then head toward the nipple 90007. 90009 90002 Some women love when you sensually kiss their breasts, others prefer when you only kiss and suck their nipples, other prefer when you lick them … 90009 90002 It depends on the girl.90009 90002 It’s up to you to identify your partner’s preferences. 90009 90002 At this stage, you have not touched her vagina or clitoris yet. 90009 90002 It’s coming, do not worry. 90009 90070 Once the girl is getting hornier, you can finally head toward her crotch … and more precisely toward her clitoris. 90071 90002 90291 90291 Since the clitoris is sensitive and can easily get sore, you’re going to lubricate this area with vaginal fluid or with your saliva. 90009 90002 First of all, 90004 start by touching the surface of the clitoris slightly 90007.90009 90002 Again, take it slow. 90009 90002 Proceed gradually. 90009 90002 Men often have difficulty in finding the right intensity. 90009 90002 Instead of slightly caressing the clitoris, they start with way too much intensity right away. They’re too abrupt. 90009 90002 Some areas of girls ‘genitals get sore easily and react badly to intense and sustained touches, whereas some other parts react quite well to these kinds of touches. 90009 90002 90004 If you want to touch sensitive areas of her skin or mucosal body parts, it’s better to slightly caress or palpate them with your fingers or tongue 90007.90009 90002 It’s better to reserve more intense touches to body parts that are less sensitive (booty, legs, stomach, lower part of the tits, and so on). 90009 90002 Alright … 90009 90002 90004 After you start touching her clitoris slightly, incrementally increase the pressure on it 90007. 90009 90002 Pay attention to her reactions: try to identify what kind of touches (speed, pressure, area) she prefers. 90009 90002 Do not hesitate to 90004 touch other parts of her body and to kiss her breasts while working on her clitoris 90007.You can make her reach orgasm this way. 90009 90002 For some women, clitoral stimulation is enough to make them come, whereas for some others, it will be more effective to introduce one of several fingers into her vagina while continuing to caress her clitoris … or to penetrate her … which gets us to the next key … 90009 90054 • The key to making her reach orgasm during penetration: 90055 90002 90331 90331 As always, take it a step at a time. 90009 90002 Proceed gradually. 90009 90002 90004 Do not start right away by jackhammering her 90007.90009 90002 You run the risk of hurting her and ruining all the hard work you’ve done during foreplay. 90009 90002 What’s more, violently penetrating a girl is not enough to make her come. It does not work like that. 90009 90002 So do not rush things. 90009 90002 90004 To make a girl come during penetration, the best way is to stimulate her clitoris while penetrating her 90007. 90009 90002 There are various ways to do it, such rubbing your pubis against hers or using your finger. Some women like to do it themselves.90009 90002 That’s the way you’ll make her come. 90009 90054 • How to fuck her in a solid way: 90055 90002 Many guys get it wrong when it comes to make love with a girl. 90009 90002 Many guys treat girls like angels … as if they were some kind of innocent children. 90009 90002 And after that, they wonder why they struggle to please women in bed. 90009 90002 They wonder why they can not make them really horny and sweep them off their feet. 90009 90002 Understand this: 90009 90002 90004 To satisfy a woman in bed, do not make love with her, but fuck her 90007.90009 90002 90004 You must be strong and act like a man 90007. 90009 90002 If you play it soft during the whole sexual intercourse, chances are that you’ll leave her dissatisfied. 90009 90002 Being sweet and lovely is nice, but it’s not what makes a woman really horny. It’s not enough to make her scream with pleasure. 90009 90002 Women want sex. They want hard and wild sex. No matter what some people might claim. 90009 90002 90381 90381 So 90004 do not hesitate to fuck her hard 90007. 90009 90002 90004 Do not hesitate to treat her like a bitch 90007.90009 90002 90004 Do not hesitate to talk dirty, to spank her, to pull her hair, to firmly grab her body parts, and so on. 90007 90009 90002 Try this and see how it makes her wet. 90009 90002 90004 It may seem kind of harsh, but that’s how it works. 90007 90009 90002 90004 Of course you should not do it in a way that is going to hurt her, but simply be firm enough so that she can feel that you dominate her. 90007 90009 90002 That’s the way you make her feel your solidity in bed. 90009 90002 That’s the way she can feel your masculinity and be completely into you.90009 90002 90004 When you satisfy a girl in bed, she’s going to want to see you again 90007. 90009 90002 She’s going to want to be fucked by you again and again. 90009 90002 On the contrary, she will not be interested in a guy who treats her like a little angel and who is afraid to act like a man and dominate her. 90009 90002 So 90004 do not hesitate to kind of mistreat girls in bed 90007. 90009 90002 You’ll notice how 90004 it makes them wet 90007. 90009 90002 And in the end, it can make a girl addicted to you 90004 (if you want to know more about how to make a girl addicted to you, check this powerful 2-step process while it’s still online) 90007.90009 90002 You’ll also notice that 90004 some girls love being spanked, others not so much, that some girls love to have their hair pulled, some others not so much, but at some point, every girl loves to be more or less mistreated during sex. 90007 90009 90002 It makes them really horny. 90009 90002 It makes them reveal the bad girl who’s inside. 90009 90054 Now that you know exactly how to satisfy a woman in bed, keep in mind that each woman is unique. 90055 90002 And that some situations are also unique.90009 90002 Some women will want to be penetrated quickly without dwelling on foreplay sometimes, whereas other women (or the same women but in different situations) will need more time before fucking. 90009 90002 Some women reach orgasm more easily than others. 90009 90002 For some, you’ll have to put more time into it. 90009 90002 It’s your job to adapt to your partner and to meet her sexual needs the best you can. 90009 90002 90004 If you enjoyed this article (and even if you did not), I invite you to take the SOLIDITY test 90007.90009 90002 Taking this test will allow you to assess how solid your game is. 90009 90002 There are a few questions you need to answer by checking the boxes that best apply to you, and that’s all. 90009 90002 90004 Once you’ve answered all the questions, you’ll immediately get your results as well as my analysis and some useful tips to improve yourself. 90007 90009 90002 To take the test, click the link below: 90009 90002 => 90004 SOLIDITY TEST: IS YOUR GAME SOLID? 90007 90009 90002 You’ll have fun; trust me.90009 90002 Stay solid, 90469 Jack 90009 90471.90000 More Techniques To Please A Woman In Bed 90001 90002 90003 Many women go off sex as time goes by. Others seem to be much keener to keep on having it. Why the difference? 90004 90005 90002 Well, we know that women who like sex — and who want lots of it — get three main things from sex with their men: a sense of intimacy, emotional closeness and bonding, and, no surprise, physical sexual pleasure. 90005 90002 That means if you care about pleasing your woman in bed you need to know some amazing sex techniques which will make you her sexual hero! 90005 90010 90002 90003 FREE VIDEO: How To Pleasure Your Woman With Intense G Spot Squirting Orgasms! 90004 90005 90002 90003 90017 90004 90005 90002 Try out the simple sexual techniques revealed in our free video and you’ll instantly be able to give your woman an orgasm so intense that she’ll squirt as she comes! You’ll both enjoy massive pleasure, massive orgasms, and massive satisfaction — guaranteed! 90005 90002 Simply click on the link below to watch our FREE video which shows you the very best way to please a woman in bed.(Caution: it’s noisy.) 90005 90002 90003 Click here and enjoy squirting orgasms tonight! 90004 90003 90004 90005 90010 90002 You might be wondering how we know what women want from sex. The answer comes from a study at the University of Pittsburg in which the researchers interviewed 354 sexually active women aged between 40 and 65 years. These women were enjoying sex on a regular basis. The questions centered on arousal, orgasm, sexual satisfaction, pleasure and pain, and also how important lovemaking was to these women.90005 90002 They carried on interviewing these women for eight years. At the end of the eight-year period, over 85% of the women who regarded sex as «important» in their lives were still enjoying regular sexual intercourse. 90005 90002 So why did these women see sex as important and continue to enjoy it on a regular basis? 90005 90002 The answer, interestingly, was not about trying new or different sexual techniques (like the coital alignment technique), or even the amount of sexual pleasure received.90038 90003 It was simply that sexual intercourse involved 90004 90041 90003 90038 intimacy and bonding, as well as sexual pleasure. 90041 90004 90005 90002 So establishing intimacy and building a sense of emotional closeness seem to be a big part of knowing the right way to please a woman in bed. 90005 90002 And as we said, the other part is all about receiving sexual pleasure. This might mean the more you prioritize sex in your life, the more likely you are to have good sex, and the more likely you are to go on enjoying orgasms into later life! 90005 90051 How to Have An Orgasm 90052 90002 90054 90055 90005 90002 But let’s ask another question — why does this matter? Is it just a matter of sexual pleasure, feeling good, and enjoying the satisfaction that orgasms can bring us? Or is there something more fundamental going on here? 90005 90051 The Power of Orgasm 90052 90002 Orgasms release oxytocin in the bloodstream, which is a feel-good hormone, and a bonding hormone.Having an orgasm actually makes you feel good — both emotionally and physically. What’s more, endorphins released during orgasm can soothe pain. 90005 90002 So those sound like two very important reasons to have regular orgasms, but the science of sex gets more fascinating still. 90005 90002 90003 Apparently having sex once or twice a week actually boosts your immune system. 90004 90005 90002 Apart from anything else, enjoying an orgasm with a regular partner serves to bring you close together in many different ways.90005 90002 In particular, women who have orgasms with a regular partner on a regular basis, speak more positively and warmly about their partners than those who do not. 90005 90002 90003 90038 The implication here is that the enjoyment and happiness that is derived from regular orgasms spills out into the relationship beyond the bedroom. 90041 90004 90005 90002 And indeed, people who have sex four times a week apparently look about 10 years younger than they actually are. (Although another possibility is that people who are naturally youthful simply look 10 years younger and enjoy sex more because they have more energy.But regular sex is worth a try in holding back the years, surely!) 90005 90081 Although finding ways to please a woman in bed are important, successful sex is about much more than just physical pleasure. 90002 And of course when you go beyond the physical aspects of sex, it is an emotional process. We’ve looked at the coital alignment technique, and seen how that can help the physical aspects of sexual pleasure. But what about the emotional aspects? 90005 90002 Sex starts with romance, and it ends with romance, in the form of cuddling.After orgasm partners feel the need to connect, not just emotionally, but physically as well. 90005 90002 That’s a biological thing, the product of hormones which flow into the bloodstream at orgasm. But there’s more — because reaching climax not only makes you feel intimate physically, it also boosts your confidence. So if you know the best ways to please a woman in bed — in other words, if you know how to take her to orgasm — you feel better in every way! 90005 90002 That’s true for both men and women: shared orgasms make two people feel more loving, more connected to each other, and more deeply satisfied and fulfilled in their relationship.90005 90002 Interestingly, people who make love frequently will demonstrate more emotional feelings towards each other in a physical way. They actually feel a need to touch, to kiss, and to hug each other, and they do this freely in public, because they are less inhibited. 90005 90002 And there’s even more! When you have an orgasm, the oxytocin which floods your brain makes you feel love and trust for your partner more strongly. 90005 90002 For most women who enjoy sex. having regular sex will provide pleasure both in bed and out of bed.That’s because sex promotes greater intimacy as well as providing the deep satisfaction, pleasure and fulfillment of orgasms. And for a woman, there’s also the emotional satisfaction and pleasure of bonding with her man outside the bedroom. 90005 90002 90003 And finally, here’s compelling proof of the power of sex: the more you make love, the more you want to make love. 90004 90005 90100 Yes! The more you make love, the more you want to make love! 90002 Making love increases your libido.This makes you feel more connected and bonded with your partner. It also makes sex feel better each time you have it. We recommend this information on sex because it explains how to make your woman by improving your sexual technique. 90005 90051 90003 Getting To Know You 90004 90052 90002 To say that lovemaking is a way of getting to know your partner might sound like a cliche, but it’s absolutely true! When you are intimate with somebody, you let them see a side of you that is not normally visible to anybody else.90005 90002 Not only that, but making love with your partner helps you learn what you can do to please a woman in bed, and in particular in the process of getting to know them better than anybody else does, you have the satisfaction of knowing how to satisfy her. 90005 90002 And let’s not forget a simple fact: you do not need a reason to make love! You can enjoy doing it simply because it’s fun and because it makes you happy and because it’s rewarding to give pleasure to your woman. Remember the coital alignment technique is a great way to ensure orgasm during intercourse! 90005 90051 Do You Know The Secret Of Pleasing Your Partner? 90052 90002 An interesting piece of research conducted by SA Miller and ES Byers and reported in the Journal of Sexual Relationships, 2004, demonstrated that the expectations of lovemaking between men and women can be quite different.90005 90002 They asked 152 heterosexual couples about their perception of the ideal duration for foreplay and intercourse, and compared that with the actual duration of intercourse and foreplay. 90005 90002 They also asked these couples to say what they believed about their partners ‘preferred and ideal length of foreplay and intercourse. 90005 90002 You may not be surprised to learn that men wanted significantly longer intercourse than women. 90005 90002 Also, it was clear that women significantly underestimate the amount of time men want for both foreplay and intercourse.90005 90125 Longer lovemaking is better lovemaking, right? YES, YOU BETCHA !! 90002 Regrettably, both men and women had some very inaccurate perceptions about men’s ideal sexual behavior. 90005 90002 For example, men were generally perceived as wanting significantly less foreplay and intercourse than they actually wanted. 90005 90002 So maybe people really think their partners share their sexual beliefs and expectations, so they do not give much thought to what their partners actually want.90005 90002 This is unfortunate. It implies people are not communicating about their sexual desires or about what would really give them the most pleasure in bed. Women in particular may be reticent about saying what would please them in bed. 90005 90002 90003 If you do not communicate your wishes and desires to each other you can not really know how to please a woman in bed. You’re just guessing! 90004 90005 90002 There are several ways to remedy this. One is to discuss what will please you in bed.Ask your partner about their sexual desires, preferences, and expectations. And, above all, get the right information about sexual pleasure. This is useful for men looking for clues to better technique, for example. 90005 90051 Making Time For Her Will Please Her In Every Way 90052 90002 You’ve got to accept that compromises have to be made in a relationship. 90005 90002 Let me emphasize this is not about giving your principles away or changing everything you do just for the benefit of your woman.Far from it. It’s about seeking a path of compromise that is acceptable to both you and her. 90005 90002 For example, when she seems needy, maybe she’s frightened of losing you. Perhaps she sees your lack of attention to her as a sign that you’re losing interest in her … .. and that means you might be moving on. For a woman, that fear is roughly equal to your fear of losing your job: it can make her feel like life is over. 90005 90002 When you do not make your woman your top priority, you’re saying other things are more important than she is.And she hates that! 90005 90002 What solves this problem is a constant supply of reminders from you that you’re not taking her for granted, and that you do care about her. She needs to know that you’re happy to spend time finding ways to please a woman in bed. For one thing, you might take the time and trouble to learn the coital alignment technique — this is described on this website, of course. 90005 90002 You see, nothing pleases a woman more than: 90005 90154 90155 knowing that you’re proud to have her as your partner in your relationship.90156 90155 seeing that you make time for her on a regular, consistent basis. 90156 90155 the fact that you find all sorts of ways to connect with her. 90156 90161 90002 And really, when you think about it, if you’re not prepared to spend quality time with her, why are you in a relationship with her at all? 90005 90002 Here’s an action plan: thank her every day for something she’s done for you, but do it sincerely, from your heart. 90005 90002 Take the time every day to spend at least a few minutes together sharing some activity, whether it’s a walk, cleaning the kitchen, cooking the dinner, or playing a game.And cuddle and hug her a lot. That will certainly please your woman. This is the kind of thing which keeps a relationship going long term. 90005 90051 Keep The Fires Of Passion Burning! 90169 (Mostly For Men!) 90052 90002 Men and women in relationship often become complacent towards each other. For example, all too often, women stop taking as much trouble about their appearance and stop wanting sex. Men may stop acting romantically. 90005 90002 Neither of these things needs to happen. It’s a matter of pride and self-esteem.When you feel good about yourself, and you feel good about your relationship, then there’s a natural incentive to want to look good for your partner. You feel drawn to act in ways you know will please each other. 90005 90002 All you have to do is treat your partner in the way you treated her when you first met him or her. Remember how much time you spent seducing her, wooing her, charming her, and buying her flowers? 90005 90002 90003 Is there really any reason that you can not do that now? 90004 90005 90002 One of the best ways to show a woman that you love and appreciate her is to organize special dates with her.You do not have the time? Your job’s too important? I know only too well how important a man’s job can seem to him, because I’ve been in that situation myself. 90005 90002 How is it, you wonder, that she does not understand how utterly important it is to you as a man to keep the money coming in, how committed you are to providing for her and you in this way? 90005 90002 90003 Well, the answer is simple: it’s the same for her, except her priority is keeping the relationship together. For her, that’s the most important thing.90004 90005 90002 Obviously from your point of view there’s an incompatibility between working all the hours of the day and having a good relationship. You can not do it. Surely as a man (a man with the ability to fix things!), You can find a compromise way of working fewer hours and spending more time with your partner so that you get the best of both worlds? 90005 90002 After a while you may find that the rewards in your relationship are so great that you do not miss the work at all, even if you previously justified it on the grounds that you’re providing essential resources for you both.90005 90002 I’m not trying to diminish the importance of work for men, because I know it’s written very deep in our genes. The problem is that if it takes over, then you lose something else that’s good for your soul — your relationship. 90005 90002 However, women are able to compromise! Maybe if you come up with a plan and discuss it with our woman, you’ll be able to establish some ground rules and boundaries that allow you both to get more or less what you want. Above all, do not take her for granted, and show her respect and thoughtfulness.That’s the way to really please a woman! 90005 .90000 Why More Women Are Saying No to Casual Sex 90001 90002 90003 90004 How we see the world shapes who we choose to be — and sharing compelling experiences can frame the way we treat each other, for the better. This is a powerful perspective. 90005 90006 90007 90002 Sex-positivity — the feminist movement that’s pushing to destigmatize sex — should be great for women. The counterculture’s roots began in the 1960s, with sex positivity being about the power of undenied and unrepressed sex. In the early 1980s, the focus took a feminist turn against anti-pornography feminists.90007 90002 Now more mainstream, the conversations revolve around empowering women to have as much sex as they want, without shame. Many of us grew up on TV shows, movies, and books that use promiscuity and independence synonymously. Women like Samantha Jones from «Sex and the City» have been coded as empowering because of the high number of casual sexual encounters they have. 90007 90002 With movements to reclaim the words slut and ho and the numerous dating apps that enable us to have casual encounters with ease, it would seem casual sex is everywhere.90007 90014 There’s just one little problem: The casual sex straight women are having is bad 90015 90002 Last year, DJ Khaled proudly announced that he did not go down on women. He was roundly mocked on social media, but he is far from the only man with a sexual double standard. For example, men are open on social media about their requirements for a «wifey» versus a casual sex partner. 90007 90002 I’d finally decided to swear off casual sex after a string of terrible encounters. As a straight woman who’s been single for most of her 20s, I had exactly zero orgasms — and all with men who would only judge me for it later.And when I tweeted about the phenomenon, I received an overwhelming amount of replies and DMs, all from other women through with casual sex. 90007 90020 Tweet 90021 90002 When I tell other women I’m taking a break from non-relationship sex, they tell me they understand completely. They are not swearing off casual sex because they want serious relationships or because they can not handle casual arrangements — which is the prevailing cultural stereotype about women. No, these women are saying they do not enjoy casual sex on a basic level.90007 90002 There’s no emotional investment in casual sex. Still, emotional investment is not a prerequisite to good sex. So, what is it that makes casual sex so bad for straight women? 90007 90002 The most common denominator in the bad-sex stories I hear from women is men who are doing the bare minimum for female pleasure. 90007 90002 I think back to all the casual encounters I’ve had since college, in which I gave men blowjobs while they seemed completely uninvested in getting me off. (I can count on one hand the number of times I was offered oral sex in return: one.) 90007 90002 It’s already well documented that straight women do not have as many orgasms as heterosexual men or as lesbian women — partly because cis-het sex often finishes when the man comes. 90007 90002 Since the majority of women do not or can not orgasm from penetrative sex, oral sex can be the key to their pleasure. Unfortunately, every woman I spoke to told me the same thing: «The men almost never go down on me, unless I ask for it, and sometimes not even then.» 90007 90020 Tweet 90021 90002 One woman tells me, «A few men have told me that cunnilingus is something they would give only to a longtime girlfriend — which confounds me since they had absolutely no qualms about oral sex for themselves.»She’s not the only one to have this experience. Astonishing as it sounds, there are quite a few straight men who view going down on a woman as a «girlfriend privilege.» 90007 90002 As one woman tells me via Twitter, the idea of ​​girlfriend privilege is «a license to be less of themselves in bed. Less invested, less giving. » 90007 90014 Men have a problem prioritizing female pleasure 90015 90002 Take your average porn video easily accessible online. It probably does not feature a woman having an orgasm — and even when it does, the orgasm is depicted as the woman screaming or thrashing around in a performative and unrealistic fashion.90007 90002 The link between casual sex and porn sex was brought up by many of the women I interviewed. 90007 90002 «I remember one dude got weirdly rough while we were in the act without checking in … and he kept trying to do this weird, legs-up, porn sex pose that hurt,» says one woman in a private message. 90007 90002 Another tells me that men mirror things they «clearly got from porn — like growling, awkward choking, and spanking,» without the sexual finesse of an actual adult entertainment star.She describes the tempo of the sex as being «forceful and aggressive», while the man ignored her obvious pain. 90007 90002 There seems to be a kind of disrespect of women’s autonomy during casual sexual encounters, which does not make the experience any better. 90007 90020 Tweet 90021 90002 When I think about my own one-night stands, I realize I can relate: It seems to me that many men copy what they’ve learned from porn with no comprehension of the fact that women are not a monolith . 90007 90002 This is a symptom of the larger cultural disease that treats women as if we’re all the same.The fashion industry seems to struggle conceiving different sizes for the female body. Hollywood, more than 70 to 80 percent of the time, only conceives of one race of women. Mainstream porn seems to suggest women have only one type of sex. 90007 90002 Women are unique in our tastes, including our sexual tastes. Our bodies and pleasure points are individual and different. Treating us as a one-size-fits all pornographic fantasy is not going to work. 90007 90014 According to the frustrated women in my inbox, there’s no point in casual sex until we figure out a way to teach men how do it with consideration 90015 90002 Every single woman I talk to says some variant of the same thing: Men prioritize their pleasure by treating women like dolls or props to get off from.90007 90002 «99 percent of men you have casual sex with are just using you as a human fleshlight. You do not get the full spectrum of the sexual experience … [there’s] a lack of sensuality. They do not caress your body, touch your hair … which is part of what makes sex fun for women, «says one woman, who says she has been so disillusioned she’s all but given up on casual sex with cis men. 90007 90002 And since I’ve written off casual sex, I can not agree more. 90007 90002 I have so much more time to myself.I’m much less willing to be disappointed by strange men. I feel that my body and my desires matter in a real way, since I only have sex with partners who I know are committed to my pleasure. 90007 90002 My orgasm rate has skyrocketed — and so has my self-esteem. 90007 90002 It’s not that we do not want more sex, but who wants bad sex with selfish partners? We’ve heard society’s version of sex positivity and we’re choosing to keep our legs closed. Investing in casual sex with straight men means investing in their orgasms more than anything: We’re now choosing to invest in ours.90007 90074 90002 90004 Priya-Alika Elias is a lawyer and writer who lives in Delhi, India. She tweets about feminism, dating, and pop culture @priya_ebooks. 90005 90007.90000 Trying to Conceive: 10 Tips for Women 90001 90002 To optimize women’s fertility, taking better care of their bodies is a good first step. But what else can women do to improve their odds of having a baby? 90003 90002 The most important advice for a woman who wants to get pregnant is to get to know her body, specifically her menstrual cycle, said Dr. Mary Ellen Pavone, a reproductive endocrinologist and infertility specialist and medical director of the in-vitro fertilization program at Northwestern Medicine’s Fertility and Reproductive Medicine department in Chicago.90003 90002 «It’s important to know how far apart her cycles are so she can more accurately time intercourse to try to get pregnant,» Pavone said. 90003 90002 Here are 10 tips that may help increase a healthy woman’s chances of becoming pregnant. 90003 90010 1. Record menstrual cycle frequency 90011 90002 A woman who wants to have a baby should monitor whether the first days of her periods tend to come the same number of days apart every month, which is considered regular. Conversely, her periods may be irregular, meaning her cycle lengths vary from month to month.By tracking this information on a calendar, a woman can better predict when she might be ovulating, which is the time when her ovaries will release an egg every month. 90003 90002 A woman’s egg is fertile for only 12 to 24 hours after its release, according to the American Pregnancy Association. However, a man’s sperm can survive in a woman’s body for up to five days. 90003 90010 2. Monitor ovulation 90011 90002 Women with regular cycles ovulate about two weeks before the arrival of their periods, Pavone said.It’s harder to predict ovulation in women with irregular cycles, but it usually occurs 12 to 16 days before the start of her next period. 90003 90002 There are several methods women can use to help determine their most fertile days each month. 90003 90002 Home ovulation-prediction kits can take some of the guesswork out of figuring out when a woman is ovulating. Sold at drug stores, the kits test urine for luteinizing hormone, a substance whose levels increase each month during ovulation and cause the ovaries to release an egg.The three days right after a positive test result are the best time for couples to have sex to increase their odds of becoming pregnant, reports the American Pregnancy Association. 90003 90002 Another method to predict ovulation is to track cervical mucus, which involves a woman regularly checking both the amount and appearance of mucus in her vagina. Just before ovulation when a woman is most fertile, the amount of mucus increases and it also becomes thinner, clearer and more slippery, according to the March of Dimes.When cervical mucus becomes more slippery, it can help sperm make its way to the egg. A study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility found that women who checked their cervical mucus consistently were 2.3 times more likely to get pregnant over a six-month period. 90003 90010 3. Have sex every other day during the fertile window 90011 90002 The «fertile window» spans a six-day interval, the five days prior to ovulation and the day of it, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.These are the days each month when a woman is most fertile. 90003 90002 Some women are turning to new technology tools, such as fertility tracking apps and websites, to help them keep tabs on when they may be more likely to conceive, but a study done in 2016 suggests the apps may not be that accurate. 90003 90002 Research has shown that there has not been a big difference in pregnancy rates between couples who had sex every day during the «fertile window» (37 percent) compared with couples who did it every other day (33 percent), Pavone said .»And having sex every other day might be easier for a couple to pull off,» she added. 90003 90002 There are plenty of common misconceptions and old wives ‘tales about conception. For example, there’s no evidence that sex position will influence a couple’s chances of having a baby, nor does a woman lying on her back for a certain amount of time after intercourse increase the odds of conceiving, Pavone told Live Science. 90003 90002 But she said there are some water-based vaginal lubricants that can decrease the movement of sperm, so Pavone recommended using Pre-Seed rather than Astroglide or K-Y Brand Jelly when lubrication is needed.90003 90010 4. Strive for a healthy body weight 90011 90002 Being too heavy can reduce a woman’s odds of conceiving, but being too thin can make it even harder to have a baby. 90003 90002 Research has shown that a woman who is overweight can take twice as long to become pregnant than a woman whose BMI is considered normal, Pavone said. And a woman who is underweight might take four times as long to conceive, she said. 90003 90002 Having too much body fat produces excess estrogen, which can interfere with ovulation.Losing 5 to 10 percent of body weight before a woman starts trying to get pregnant could improve her fertility, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. 90003 90002 A study done in 2017 found that couples in which both partners are obese may take from 55 to 59 percent longer to become pregnant, compared with couples who are not obese. 90003 90002 Women who are too thin might not be getting regular periods or could stop ovulating. 90003 90010 5. Take a prenatal vitamin 90011 90002 Pavone recommends that women who are attempting to conceive start taking a prenatal vitamin even before becoming pregnant.This way a woman can find one that’s more agreeable to her system and stay on it during pregnancy, she said. 90003 90002 Another possibility is to take a daily multivitamin, as long as it contains at least 400 micrograms (mcg) per day of folic acid, a B vitamin that’s important for preventing birth defects in a baby’s brain and spine, Pavone said. 90003 90002 The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention urges women to take 400 mcg of folic acid every day for at least one month before getting pregnant to help prevent birth defects.90003 90002 Getting a head start on folic acid supplementation is a good idea because the neural tube develops into the brain and spine 3 to 4 weeks after conception occurs, before many women may realize they’re expecting. 90003 90010 6. Eat healthy foods 90011 90002 Although there may not be a specific fertility-promoting diet, eating a variety of healthy foods can help prepare a woman’s body for pregnancy by giving her adequate stores of critical nutrients such as calcium, protein and iron .This means eating a variety of fruits and vegetables, lean protein, whole grains, dairy and healthy sources of fat. 90003 90002 Besides taking a supplement containing folic acid, a woman can also obtain this B vitamin from foods such as dark green leafy vegetables, broccoli, fortified breads and cereals, beans, citrus fruits and orange juice. [Related: High Cholesterol Levels May Make It Harder to Get Pregnant] 90003 90002 When trying to get pregnant, eat lower amounts of high-mercury fish, such as swordfish, shark, king mackerel, and tilefish.And limit albacore (white) tuna to 6-ounces per week to reduce exposure to this toxic metal, the Food and Drug Administration recommends 90067. 90068 90003 90002 Also, go easy on caffeine: Consuming more than 500 milligrams of caffeine a day has been linked with a decrease in fertility in women. Having 1 to 2 cups of coffee, or less than 250 mg of caffeine, per day before becoming pregnant appears to have no impact on the likelihood of conception, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.90003 90010 7. Cut back on strenuous workouts 90011 90002 Being physically active most days of the week can help a woman’s body prepare for the demands of pregnancy and labor. But getting too much exercise or doing frequent strenuous workouts could interfere with ovulation 90067. 90068 90003 90002 Doctors see a lot of menstrual disturbances in women who exercise heavily, and a lot of times these women need to cut back on their workouts if they want to become pregnant, Pavone told Live Science.90003 90002 As women get older their fertility decreases because of age-related changes in the ovaries that cause a decline in the quantity and quality of her eggs. With advancing age, there’s also an increased risk for some health problems, such as uterine fibroids, endometriosis and blockage of the fallopian tubes, which can contribute to a loss of fertility. 90003 90002 There’s a gradual fertility decline in women beginning in their 30s, a sharper decline after age 37 and a steep decline after age 40, Pavone said.These declines mean it may take longer to become pregnant. 90003 90010 9. Kick the smoking and drinking habits 90011 90002 Smoking can lead to fertility problems in both women and men. Chemicals found in cigarette smoke, such as nicotine and carbon monoxide, speed up the loss rate of a woman’s eggs, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. 90003 90002 Smoking ages a woman’s ovaries and depletes her supply of eggs prematurely, according to the Mayo Clinic. 90003 90002 It’s also a good idea for women to stay away from secondhand smoke, which may affect their chances of becoming pregnant.Marijuana and other recreational drug use should also be avoided while trying to conceive. 90003 90002 It’s safest for a woman to avoid alcohol when she is hoping to become pregnant. A woman should also stop consuming alcohol if she stops using birth control because she wants to get pregnant. 90003 90002 However, a 2017 study found that about half of pregnant women in the United States drink alcohol around the time they become pregnant or in early pregnancy, usually before they know they are expecting.90003 90002 Drinking alcohol at moderate (one to two drinks per day) or heavy levels (more than two drinks per day) can make it difficult for a woman to get pregnant, according to The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. 90003 90002 Once a woman becomes pregnant, there’s no safe amount of alcohol, Pavone said. 90003 90010 10. Know when to seek help 90011 90002 Both the woman and the man should consider having an infertility evaluation if the woman is 35 or older and has not become pregnant after six months of having sex regularly without using birth control, Pavone said.90003 90002 Pavone also recommended that a woman who is under 35 and her partner should consult a fertility specialist if she has failed to become pregnant after one year of having unprotected intercourse on a regular basis. 90003 90002 90107 This article is for informational purposes only, and is not meant to offer medical advice. This article was updated on Oct. 23, 2018 by Live Science Reference Editor, Kimberly Hickok. 90108 90003 .